If you follow my Instagram you may have already guessed that things are changing around here and I’m super excited!!

I’d like to finally announce that beingboo_blog is now officially home to all things life. From trending topics to the ins and outs of what goes on in my head I will be sharing what it’s like to be a 20 something in todays society. I will be bringing you all along on this wild ride and will open the door to the highs and lows of life. I have so many ideas that I can’t wait to share with you!!

I feel privileged to be sharing a platform with all you wonderful people and am so looking forward to the future of beingboo_blog and for the exciting times ahead!!!

I want to thank each and every one of you for your continued support, it really means the world to me. Your kindness over the years has been integral in my recovery journey and I wouldn’t be able to do what I’m doing now without you lovely people behind me.

Thanks again and let’s start this adventure together 🤍

Boo x

As I’m sat here writing this post I can’t help but look back to the time when I first started this blog. A time where my whole world was controlled, dictated and poisoned by my anorexia. A time where looking to the future just wasn’t possible and a time when I felt completely broken and lost. I’m still plagued by some horrible thoughts that take me straight back to this place but, my god, I’ve come so far from those days.

I genuinely never ever believed I would ever get better. I never believed that I had a future, the chance to have a career, make friends, go on holidays, eat the food I want to eat because I like it.

But this is my reality now.

I’m definitely a stronger person, a happier person, a person who can go out for food with her friends, who has the capacity to make long lasting memories and a person who can live again.

Never in a million years did I think this life was possible. But here I am, alive and taking on each day at a time.

Yes, I still struggle massively with my appearance and body dysmorphia and yes I still suffer from my low mood and anxiety but I can finally say that my ED is not something I have to battle with everyday.

As scary as it is to say goodbye to my ED and to actually let go I have to do it. I can’t keep clinging on to that thing in my life that only wants to destroy me. I need to set myself free.

I’m absolutely terrified to say this but GOODBYE AN. You put up a good fight but I won this time and that’s something you can never take away from me.

ALWAYS KEEP FIGHTING AND HOLD ON TO HOPE

B X

During our lifetime we will meet so many people. Some of these people will go onto be life-long friends, partners, beacons of support whilst some of them will drift away and become strangers. You may find yourself in situations where you’re fighting to be heard by a friend or when your views don’t align with those around you, and It’s during these testing times that our true friends are revealed and the fake ones are exposed.

Throughout lockdown I have been learning to accept that people come and go. People who you’ve previously trusted, invested your time into and people who you thought would be in your life forever suddenly aren’t there anymore. When this has happened to me I’ve often questioned my actions and have jumped to the conclusion that I’ve done something wrong to make my ‘friend’ not want to talk to me. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth.

As we go through different stages of our lives it’s normal for our support sytems and those around us to change. As we figure out our own ways in life our social settings evolve and the people surrounding us change.

In my own experince these changes have left me feeling upset, alone and worthless. I’ve assumed that people never really wanted to be friends with me in the first place and that I’m a horrible person who is not worth being around.

I’ve recently been in a situation where I’ve found myself questioning my worth because my friendship group altered. I instantly assumed that because the people surrounding me no longer spoke to me I’d done something wrong and no one would ever want to be friends with me again. However, as I took a step back and assessed the situation I realised that it’s not my fault that things with my friends didn’t work out. Looking back I’ve realised that these people weren’t my people. They weren’t singing from the same song sheet and I really didn’t fit in with them.

I want to write this post to remind you that it’s inevitable that throughout your life your friends will change. It’s nothing personal and it’s not a reflection on who you are. These changes may be difficult to manage and you may initially question your worth but believe that everything happens for a reason. You have the power to curate a safe, happy, supportive environment and if those around you aren’t making you feel secure then it’s okay to walk away.

Go out there and find your tribe. Find the people that make YOU happy and that make YOU feel accepted.

B x

The past few months have been an extremely testing time for the majority of us. I’ve certainly been on a rollercoaster ride of emotions and I’ve really been battling with myself, my mind and the world around me.

Living through a pandemic with a mental illness has definitely been a struggle. The uncertainty and monotony surrounding each day has been unsettling. Having so much time alone and to myself has been one of the biggest challenges as I’ve spent large amounts of time in my own thoughts. Being left to untangle the mess in my mind has led me to become more anxious and more consumed with negativity.

The past few days have felt like a particularly impossible battle that I keep loosing. I’m feeling utterly defeated and have been struggling to find my purpose in life. However, I keep reminding myself that at 18 years old I have my whole life ahead of me. Yes, I’ve had a turbulent few years with some serious lows but the future is in my hands and I need to take the reigns and start creating a life that I want to live.

This change will not happen overnight, but with hard work, determination and eagerness to turn things around I hope that things will begin to improve.

From today I must start to imagine the life I want to live and begin to discover the steps I need to take to get me there. I’m still in a really low place so it won’t be easy but it’s essential that I try to do this.

I will be documenting the challenges I face throughout my journey and I hope to continue to spread awareness about mental illnesses and the devastating impacts they have on someone’s life.

Please don’t give up and hold onto hope.

B x

With a second lockdown in England well underway feelings of loneliness, anxiety and uncertainty are ever present. With the constant change surrounding us it’s no surprise that people are struggling with their mental health.

For some reason I’m finding this lockdown more challenging than the first one. This time round I’m feeling lonelier, more withdrawn and my mood is lower. On top of this the voice of my eating disorder is louder and even more aggressive. Things are spiralling out of control and everything feels really difficult to manage.

I want to remind everyone that we are living in unprecedented times and what we’re going through isn’t normal. We’re living in a world where there is a heightened sense of fear constantly surrounding us and a mist of uncertainty making the future seem scary. I want to reassure you that If you are struggling with everything going on at the moment you are not alone.

Life can feel extremely overwhelming at the moment, waking up everyday can feel like an unwanted chore and finding things to keep you busy throughout the day can feel incredibly hard.

But, as a society we WILL get through this. ‘Normal’ life will resume and we will be able to get back to work, hug our loved ones and live again. At the moment I understand how impossible things feel. I’m struggling immensely and I know I’m not the only one in this position. Hold on to hope, things can only get better.

B x

Humans are people pleasers. We go out of our way to please others, we make plans even if it means sacrificing doing something for ourselves and we compromise our wellbeing to ensure that others needs are put before our own.

Constantly putting peoples needs and desires before our own can leave us stressed, anxious and exhausted. Our minds are forced into overdrive as we’re trying to please too many people all at once. Getting by like this isn’t a sustainable way of living.

To overcome the risk of burning out and becoming overwhelmed we MUST learn to say NO(something I find very difficult!!)

Far to often we say ‘yes’ just to be polite and give someone the answer they want to hear and we don’t think about the impact that saying yes has on us. We don’t think about the stress we’re causing ourselves. To change this we need to alter the connotations associated with the word NO.

We must recognise that saying NO is important. It’s not selfish, It doesn’t mean you’re letting people down and it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It means your putting your own needs first and doing what’s right for you.

A huge part of recovery is being selfish and putting your needs before others. This is not possible if you constantly say ‘yes’ to everything and overwhelm yourself. Equally it’s not useful to always say ‘no’ to things. You must find the balance.

Finding the balance is tough but, it’s achievable. There’s no formula for knowing when to say ‘yes’ and when to say ‘no’ but, if we’re logical about it it’s easy. If saying yes is causing you unbearable anxiety and you’re having to change all your plans to accommodate others plans then say no. It’s not worth putting yourself through this for someone else’s benefit.

Be honest and kind to yourself. You’re only human. You’re allowed to not want to go out all the time. You’re allowed to say no and give no explanation as to why your saying it. This is your life. Take control and own it.

B x

All of us have fears. These might be fears of the dark, of spiders of small spaces or maybe the fear of failure. But whatever you’re fear is, it’s real and relative to you.

I’m scared of many many things. I hate the dark, busy places and spiders. But that’s not what I want to write about. I want to share with you my ultimate fear. The one thing that absolutely terrifies me, yet the one thing that is inevitable. So, you may be wondering what is my biggest fear? And in simple terms my biggest fear is change.

I’m someone who craves routine and structure. I need to be sure that I wake up at the same time each day, have the same breakfast everyday, perform the same routine everyday etc. Not only does this mean that I’m rigid in my ways and lacking in spontaneity, it also means that the slightest change to my plans causes me to go into a spiral of panic. As well as changes to my daily routine causing me a great deal of worry I also immensely struggle with making decisions about my future as I know that this involves change.

I’ve just turned 18 years old so I’m at a point in my life where large changes are ahead of me. My education will change, my friendship groups will change, my treatment with mental health services will change and my way of living in general will change. And all of this terrifies me.

I could dwell on these changes forever and worry about what’s around the corner but, at the end of the day these changes are going to happen whether I want them to or not. It’s down to me to change my perception of these changes and view them as a new start. A new chapter in my life that isn’t dictated by worry, appointments with therapists and constant self doubt. This is so much easier said than done but it’s an essential belief that I must adopt.

If I want a future filled with happiness and enjoyment I must learn to embrace change. I must recognise that not all change is bad change and that change is an inevitable part of everyone’s lives. Maybe these changes will be the motivation I need to start recovering and challenging the demons in my head. And maybe these changes will open the doors that I need to find my way through life.

I don’t know what the future holds but it’s fate is in my hands and I must take control. Change is scary and daunting but it’s something that I can’t shy away from and neither should you.

ALWAYS KEEP FIGHTING!

B x

Social media is one of the most powerful platforms that exists in the modern world. It’s a space that provides us with the opportunity to interact with others whilst also allowing us a to share our lives with a wider audience. Despite these benefits of social media there are however growing concerns about the impact it has upon peoples lives.

Studies have shown that prolonged use of social media does increase an individuals risk of developing anxiety, depression, low self esteem and eating disorders. I want to explore why this is the case and share my views on why social media needs to change.

As a consumer of social media myself I’m aware of the content circulating amongst users. I’m aware that there are constantly adverts promoting us to change the way we look. I’m aware that there is a lot of conversation and images surrounding peoples appearance. I’m aware that lots of what I see presents peoples lives as perfect. I’m also aware that a lot of the images on social media present the female body in an unrealistic way. It’s the combination of all of these factors that create the perfect conditions for our mental health to suffer. If this continues there will be a major mental health crisis.

The most concerning element of social media is that content promoting weight loss, diets, cosmetic surgery etc are shared with everyone. Just the other day I was scrolling through Instagram and an advert for weight loss tablets popped up. As a sufferer of an eating disorder this content was extremely triggering and unpleasant. These types of adverts are present on all types of social media regardless of the users age. Essentially this means that children as young as 13 (the legal age at which children are allowed to use social media) are being exposed to harmful content encouraging them to change the way they look.

The root problem is that social media it’s constantly telling us that we’re not enough. It’s constantly feeding us adverts telling us how we can and should change our appearance in order to be happier, it’s telling us that in order to get the most likes on our photos we must edit and distort them so we look prettier or thinner and that we must only share the best bits of our lives so that people respect and admire us. However, all of this is unrealistic. It’s not actually achievable. It’s fake.

The truth is that a lot of what we see on social media isn’t real life. Everyone has bad days. Everyone has days where they feel rubbish about themselves. So ignore the adverts telling you to be thinner, to be more tanned, to loose more weight and ignore the photo shopped images. Lets change the conversation and embrace who we really are. Encourage others to stop painting unrealistic pictures of what life is. It will only end with more people falling victim to a horrible metal illness that will eat away at them everyday.

If you’re struggling with what you’re seeing on social media I urge you to limit the time you spend on apps, manage your content effectively and only follow people who make you feel good about yourself.

B x

What would you say if someone asked you where you wanted to be in 10 years time? Would you say that you wanted to have your own house? Be in your dream job? Have your own family? Or would you ask for things to be the same?

When I think about where I want to be in 10 years time I hope I have a career in the media industry, have my family all around me, but most of all I hope that I am happy and healthy.

Right now I’m neither happy or in a healthy place in my life. I’m constantly stressed and anxious about everything.

The reality is that if I want to have a future full of happiness and health I must fight for it. I need to realise that I’m going to have to work really really hard to get better. It’s not going to be a quick or easy fix, it’s going to be a battle but one worth fighting for.

If you want a future bursting with happiness and positivity and you’re not in that place now, fight. Fight for the life you want. Fight for freedom from the negative voices in you head. But most importantly fight for you and your future. I believe in you!

B x

Just last week I overheard a couple in the restaurant I work in commenting on my weight. They were mocking how thin I was by using phrases like ‘she looks so gaunt’ and ‘she must be so cold’. These comments really upset me and made me feel really insecure and embarrassed for the rest of my shift. Experiencing body shaming like this has encouraged me to speak out and provide some understanding about what body shaming actually is…

According to Google the definition of body shaming is ‘The action or practice of humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about their body shape or size.’ Although this captures what body shaming is in its literal sense it forgets to mention how detrimental to an individual comments about ones body can be.

Many people believe that body shaming only exists when you call someone ‘fat’ or ‘overweight.’ But the truth is it’s not that basic. The issue of body shaming is much more complex than this.

The reality is that body shaming doesn’t have a particular criteria. If you’re negatively commenting on someone’s body, whether that be about judging someone and saying they look too fat or too thin, then that’s body shaming. Anything that involves a derogatory comment about someone’s body its body shaming.

A lot of people don’t realise that calling someone too thin is also not ok. You never know what a person is going through. I’m battling an eating disorder and the people that commented on my weight really didn’t help how I feel about myself. They didn’t realise that what they said has stuck with me and will stick with me for the foreseeable future.

Next time you think about making a nasty comment about someone’s weight please don’t. It’s not helpful or beneficial to that individual. It’s the complete opposite.

Ultimately body shaming all boils down to using your words kindly. Speak respectfully to others and don’t make them feel worthless. Like I’ve said before, always choose kindness.

B x